Sunday, 1 February 2009

Mothers (Modern)

I was trawling the net for news, and came across this little number:

Mad at Dad.

And I have to ask this: Why are women, modern-day mothers so mad at their partners? And if you see what they get worked up over:

(P4)' We carry so much of this life-altering responsibility in our heads: the doctors' appointments, the shoe sizes, the details about the kids' friends. Many dads wouldn't even think to buy valentines for the class, for example, or know when it's time to sign kids up for the pre–camp physical, or that curriculum night is next Thursday at 7:30 and you need to hire a sitter and bring a nut-free vegetarian appetizer that can be eaten without a fork'

or:

(P2)' My husband is sometimes lax when it comes to keeping an eye on the kids," says Sarah, the mom of a toddler and preschooler in New Jersey. "No one's ever gotten hurt, but once I came home and found that my toddler's brand-new -- expensive! -- rug was covered in marker. It was clear he'd left them on their own for a while, with markers. I was furious. I'm still furious.'

or another from the same page:

'He recently came home from a shift at work at 8:00 in the morning, when Malbrough and her daughter were still snoozing. They'd been up late the night before, and both mom and baby were zonked. He just decides he's going to wake everyone in the house up," Malbrough says. "He doesn't think she needs to sleep as much as she does." And, she adds, not only does he violate the universal "never wake a sleeping baby" rule, but once their daughter's awake, she's the one who has to tend to her. '


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Oh, when did these women turn from the hot chick into the nagging ninny? And over such minute details. Who cares about Nut-Free spread, it is not as if you are feeding the five thousand, just some obese suburban idiots. Your there to educate your child, not to look good.

And to paraphrase from American Beauty, 'It is just a rug!', chill out. Allow the kid to play. Stop constraining the child.

The last quote really puts a smile on my face. Here comes back a man, from night shift. He is not working nights for the joy or pleasure of it but to put food on the table, to keep a roof over his family's head. He then comes in to see his kid. He may have had a rough night at work, he is definitely exhausted and is probably just as frustrated at life as his wife is. But what does he do, he goes straight for his kid.

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And there lies the rub, the frustration of many of these women. A common theme amongst all of those in the interview is that they are 'stay-at-home' mothers, although this is not exclusive to the list. And yes, men do need to pull their weight around. But one thing that many these women don't seem to realise is that they are mothers. And yes, it is a full time job. Children look to their mothers before their fathers, and that is the responsibility that you chose when you decided to have children. It is a free choice, after all, men cannot force you to carry them for nine months or so.

And relax. I know this is the mothering instinct kicking in, but you'd be surprised how resiliant your children are. Let them grow. And enjoy your partner too...

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Article from parenting.com.

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